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Tiny Bites 17: Social Shaming

January 18, 2018
Tiny Bites ep. 17 - Social Shaming | Tiny Ambitions

Before we get into it today, I wanted to put up a little bit of a disclaimer. I’m going to be sharing a personal experience that happened to me this week and talking about the emotions and shame that went along with it. So, if messy emotions just aren’t your thing, I’m giving you a pass to skip this week’s episode and you come back next week! 

Now that that’s out of the way, let get into it!

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Next week on the blog I’ll be talking about how a new, fancy kitchen appliance gave me a panic attack plus the delicious recipe that came out of it – so stay tuned for that!

  • Britt January 19, 2018 at 7:31 am

    Oh gosh Lisa, I’ve done the same thing in my workplace too. Everything gets blown out of proportion, even if it was the tiniest mistake. Thanks for sharing your experience with this- it’s definitely not an easy thing to talk about.

    Dealing with it is a day on day process and all we can do is try! Once we know to watch for the negative self-talk, it becomes a little easier to nip it in the bud, or at least recognize it afterwards.

  • Lisa January 19, 2018 at 3:31 am

    Hey Britt! I’m so sorry to hear that you had such a negative experience! I can relate so much to what you went through emotionally in response to that comment – like, a thousand percent! I have had major issues when it comes to criticism and my instinct is to do exactly the same: hide, shut down and feel ashamed. Last year when I started in my new job I naturally made a number of mistakes throughout the year, as is normal for someone not familiar with the usual procedures. My higher-ups were totally understanding of my errors and would simply provide constructive criticism to make sure they didn’t happen again. The only problem was that I just could not handle the criticism and I would basically tear myself to shreds in my head with negative self-talk, plus I would make the situation even worse by apologising over and over, and afterwards that would make my skin crawl with shame once I realised I had dragged the whole thing out by exaggerating the scale of the damage done. I am now at the point where I’m doing some strategising when it comes to my reaction to criticism – nipping the negative self-talk in the bud, accepting that I’m human and trying to move on as quickly as possible. Obviously, that process is easier said than done! It takes time, practise, determination and a lot of self-love. We’re all a work in progress. Thanks for keeping it real Britt by sharing a story that is emotionally very intimate. I think it’s great that at the end of the experience, you put a positive spin on what you went through and grew from the process. You are so right that we can’t please everyone. If we love who we are, that’s more than enough! The world can take us or leave us.

  • Hey! I'm Britt. I write about living a tiny, simple, intentional life. Because life doesn't need to be lived big.

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