Happy New Year! I hope you are recovering from an evening of New Years Eve debauchery. I personally fell asleep on the couch watching episodes of Tiny House Hunters on HGTV with my partner and cat. Basically the best New Year’s Eve ever.
This time of year is full of optimistic and ambitious people resolving to change their lives. I am not one of those people. I don’t do resolutions. That’s not how I roll. I also have this problem where as soon as I’m super into something (like a new fitness regime), I pay for it and then immediately lose all interest. My wallet is very tired of this cycle.
I only recently started noticing this pattern. I’ve done it with Headspace, DoYouYoga and a number of courses with Sadie Nardini. All of these things are useful & great but as soon as I switched from a free trial to paid, I completely stopped using them. Every. Single. Time.
I didn’t understand why this was my pattern until last week when I was listening to a Balanced Bites podcast on resolutions. One of the hosts, Diane SanFilippo said:
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Major lightbulb moment people. All of my recent fitness related aspirations (CrossFit, HIIT, PiYo), at the core, were about me wanting to magically become a size 2 with bikini-ready abs. And of course, all of these programs failed. And I think it’s because I don’t actually want to be a size 2. I just want to be me.
As Diane said in the podcast, “we cannot be forced to achieve something we don’t want.”
So, are you making a resolution you don’t actually want to achieve? There is nothing inherently wrong with making resolutions – you just have to realize that January 1 is not the only time you can change your life.
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If you do want to make a resolution, really take the time and think about if it’s something you really want. If your health and fitness is an important goal for you, would saying you are going to lose 50 lbs really make you happy? Or would it be more realistic to say you are going to start going on walks on your lunch break when the weather is nice?
If minimalism and living more simply is important to you, would saying you’re going to get rid of 50% of the stuff you own be achievable? Or would it be more realistic to say you are going to get rid of 1 item a day from a room in your house? That might be a smaller goal, but at the end of the year you will be 365 items more minimal!
Breaking down your goals into smaller chunks makes it more likely to succeed, and also makes it easier for you to visualize and track. But keep in mind, failing at your goal does not make YOU a failure. You are already perfect, whole and enough as you are -succeeding or failing at your resolution does not change that.
Am I making a resolution for 2017? No. I am choosing to make the healthiest decisions I can every day. And those decisions will be different every day.
Did you make a resolution for this year? Do you do something different altogether? Let me know in the comments!