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The Wonders of a Slow Weekend

July 17, 2017
The Wonders of a Slow Weekend | Tiny Ambitions

The birds were chirping, the wind was blowing, we had good tunes on my laptop and we were cooking in the kitchen.

To anyone else, this might seem like a waste of a Canadian summer weekend. But, to me, it was absolute perfection.

Over the last month or so, I’ve tried to be more mindful of being fully aware and present in whatever I’m doing. I decided to make this a priority for myself when I started noticing I was always thinking about what was next, rather than enjoying ‘the now’.

As an example, I get super frustrated when my partner and I don’t launch into our weekend immediately. I view the slow start and lazy couch lounging as a waste of time. I see it as a stop gap before the ‘real’ thing we are supposed to do that weekend starts (groceries, hikes, country drives etc). I assume (wrongly) that the next activity is going to be better than whatever we are currently doing.

The short version of this plays out like this: why are we doing X thing, when we could be doing Y thing and ‘really’ living? We are always waiting for life to start, but we forget it’s already happening around us. My attitude lacked an appreciation for the awesomeness bestowed upon us in the present.

[bctt tweet=”The present is the only place we’ll ever be, so we might as well enjoy it.” username=”tinyambitionsbb”]

Let’s jump back to the wonderfully slow weekend I had.

Full disclosure: we don’t have kids and no friends or family live close by (everyone is at least two hours away). So, our weekends are almost always our own. I recognize that’s not necessarily the case for everyone reading this.

I am not ashamed to admit that I spent much of my Saturday reading, couch-napping and taco face-stuffing. We didn’t have anywhere we needed to go, so I was under no illusion that whatever came next was more important than what we were doing in the present.

For a variety of reasons, I often feel like life has to be lived big to be meaningful.

Don’t get me wrong, wild adventures and anything else that would be considered Insta-worthyย are all wonderful things/experiences. But, these experiences are not the reality of daily life for most people (myself included). And I refuse to feel bad about my life because of that.

It is a much better use of my time to find and appreciate the magic in everyday things instead of wishing for life to be something it isn’t.

[bctt tweet=”Anguish emerges from craving for life to be other than it is.” – Stephen Batchelor” username=”tinyambitionsbb”]

It was on Sunday when I looked up from prepping dinner, to see my partner dancing around the living room with our cat, soft music playing in the background, that I realized, this is life.

Life is not the moments worth posting on social media. It’s all the small bits we’d rather not show anyone. The messy, uncurated bits.

Life is not the reality I dream up in my head when I’m trying to distract myself. It’s the here and now, with all of its wonderful beauty, trials, and tribulations.

When applied to my current life situation, my thought process goes a little something like this:

  • Sure, I don’t have a six-figure income, but I also don’t have the stress of an hour-long commute every day.
  • Yes, I don’t live in a trendy city, but I’m also not spending half my income on rent every month.
  • Sure, my apartment is small, but I’m saving up for an even smaller tiny house.
  • Yes, I don’t have my dream job right now, but I’m not actually sure what my dream job is anyway.

When I told my partner I was writing about our weekend, he said: “but, we didn’t do anything”. With a twinkle in my eye, I replied, “Exactly”.

The birds were chirping, the wind was blowing, we were cooking in the kitchen.

It was a wonderfully slow weekend, and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Image Credit: Unsplash

  • Happy Camper July 19, 2017 at 9:33 pm

    You’ve inspired me to blog about my perspectives on “taking it slow” as well — thanks for representing the cause and taking the battle to the streets! Maybe if enough of us sing the same song, we’ll all start being a lot cooler to one another.

    • tinyambitions July 19, 2017 at 10:17 pm

      Woot woot! Happy to represent the slow weekend movement! Thanks for reading.

  • AdventureRich July 18, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    Hooray for slow weekends and the adventures they bring us! This weekend sounds lovely ๐Ÿ™‚

    • tinyambitions July 18, 2017 at 6:13 pm

      It really was! Thanks for reading!

  • Jane July 18, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    Awww, this is so cute! I had a chill weekend that was spent entirely on reading books, watching movies, and lounging. I only somewhat regret it, but weekends are best for recovering, body and soul. I did end up doing some writing for an hour, and it was a very productive hour. Much better than sitting down for five hours and forcing myself to come up with something subpar.
    I need to think about slow weekends the way you do. Taking time to just be present isn’t easy, unfortunately.

    • tinyambitions July 18, 2017 at 12:08 pm

      Absolutely! I think it’s all about leaning in and out. Be busy when you have to be busy, and then relax when you don’t have to. It’s definitely a skill, and one I hope to keep working on!

  • Lisa | Simple Life Experiment July 18, 2017 at 6:34 am

    I love the messy, uncurated bits! So glad you had such a wonderful, relaxing weekend with Mr Tiny Ambitions. It’s amazing how much I relate to EVERYTHING you write, Brittany. Your blog is like a little haven. I’m definitely an ‘it’s the little things’ person, but on the other hand I’m still trying to escape from that ‘get stuff done’ feeling that is hard to shake even after all this time, so I completely know what it’s like. From a writing perspective, this post is so poetic too, I love it ๐Ÿ™‚

    • tinyambitions July 18, 2017 at 7:08 am

      This is why we’re blog buddies Lisa! It’s funny though, when I was writing it, it felt more like a short story rather than a ‘blog post’ and I loved it! I might have to incorporate more posts like this in the future. Cheers to all the ‘it’s the little things’ people out there!!

  • upasna July 18, 2017 at 3:23 am

    Your post resonated with me so much. I was the same. I used to wait for the next thing believing that the time spent on couch is a waste. Its only recently that I am practicing Gratitude and I am thankful for the small moments and do not wait for the big thing. Thanks for sharing this.

    • tinyambitions July 18, 2017 at 7:02 am

      I’m so glad it resonated with you!! Thanks for reading.

  • Sarah (Smile & Conquer) July 17, 2017 at 7:33 pm

    That really does sound like a wonderful weekend! I’m bad for packing too many activities into a weekend, especially in the summer. I find it much easier to stay in and just relax when the weather is miserable (aka from October to March in Canada) but there’s so much going on in the summer that I don’t want to miss. Sometimes it’s important to just lock yourself in though, I find that if we are out too many nights in a row by body will soon tell me it needs a little extra rest.

  • eemusings July 17, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    This is like 99% of our weekends! And sometimes I feel like I’m not making the most of them … but especially in winter (which is right now for us) holing up at home really is the best.

    The past couple of weekends, though, have been quite busy by our standards – lots of hours spent out of the house, including lots of friend time, and that has been really nice for a change.

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 6:51 pm

      I definitely get stir crazy in the winter! Even though, most of the time, the safest option is just to stay inside and be content. I think it’s about going with the flow. Be busy when you have stuff you have to do. And be slow when you have nothing to do! Thanks for reading!

  • Melanie July 17, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    Yes to all of this! My husband is someone who could easily get an A+ in life balance and being present, but I’ve had to work at it. You are so right that not thinking ahead to the next thing makes the current moment so much better. In my personal life, I’ve also been trying to change my opinion of what is “insta-worthy”. I haven’t interrupted the organic goodness of life to take more photos or whatever, but I have decided that it’s okay to share more of my everyday moment happiness, to speak up about the joy of simple. Those moments are as sweet to reflect on as a gorgeous vacation. Thanks for the great read!

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 6:45 pm

      Thanks for your kind words! And you’re right, being grateful and happy about life’s everyday moments is just as important as appreciating a hard win vacation.

  • rhinophile July 17, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    It’s lovely to read everyone’s comments about the pleasure in just being wherever you are, whether it be slow or fast. I am staying with my sister in Tasmania his weekend and we have relished our slow days of beach walks and dinners on their fire pit. Definitely simple pleasures that makes one appreciate what an amazing life I have.

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 6:13 pm

      The comments on this post have been so lovely haven’t they? I’m so glad you’ve been able to slow down on your trip and enjoy every second of it. Thanks for reading!

  • luxestrategist July 17, 2017 at 2:12 pm

    Honestly, this sounds like my perfect weekend! I spend my days with ppl in my face at all times, so it’s nice to be able to relax at home.

    With that said, I’ve definitely been guilty of overplanning our weekends. I get anxiety sometimes when I don’t know exactly what my husband are doing on the weekend, especially with the blog in existence now. I have to find pockets of time to work on it, so if I know we’re going to a dinner party or whatever I have to an alternative time to work.

    Some of my favorite moments are actually interacting with each other at home, like playing a board game instead of something passive, like watching TV.

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 2:16 pm

      I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels anxious when not ever single second of my weekend is planned out. I’m definitely starting to loosen my ‘control-freak’ grip a little bit and I’ve noticed that’s when living actually happens. I can plan it as much as I want, but it will unfold however it’s going to, so I might as well relax and enjoy it.

  • Hanna @ minimal marathoner July 17, 2017 at 10:25 am

    I relate a lot to what you said about not having a dream job but not knowing what your dream job is. I’m in the same boat, and I’m wondering if maybe there really is no “dream job” for me. Unfortunately not all of us will be able to make a living on the things that make us most passionate and fulfilled. We just have to do the best we can with what we’ve got.

    The best weekends do seem to happen when we’re not really trying for it. I have a friend who calls it “second hand fun”, when you don’t realize how happy you were in the moment until after it’s over. I’ve had relaxing weekends that hit the spot, and I’ve also had busy weekends that made me feel more alive and recharged. You just never really know, and that spontaneity is what makes great weekends so great!

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 10:49 am

      I completely agree! I think it does a disservice to people to say everyone will be able to make a living doing exactly what they love. Because that might never be the case for someone, but that doesn’t mean their life is less meaningful than someone who does make a living off their passion.

      Also, I love your friend’s saying! I feel that a lot actually. I’m trying to get better at being in the moment to recognize the good and great as it happens. It’s a work in progress! Thanks for reading Hanna.

  • Yaz | The Wallet Moth July 17, 2017 at 10:02 am

    Sounds like a wonderful weekend. Those days where you can be blissfully lazy with no guilt are some of my favourites. Taking a step back and realising that you don’t need to do anything for anyone else is so important

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 10:05 am

      It really is so crucial to my sanity! Haha Thanks for reading Yaz.

  • D Ann July 17, 2017 at 8:48 am

    Beautiful read. It’s what I am working on in retirement. So much of my career was ON 24/7-365. Now I live in a small beach town and instead of a full on remodel, we’re taking our time. Each change is embraced before moving on to the next. Life is good.

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 8:53 am

      Thank you for your beautiful comment. I hope the rest of your retirement is just as slow as you want!

  • Lance @ My Strategic Dollar July 17, 2017 at 8:39 am

    I had a pretty low-key weekend as well. Felt like all my friends were out of town, so I go a lot of work I’d been putting off done. Oh and I saw a movie and relaxed a bit as well ๐Ÿ™‚

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 8:52 am

      Those are sometimes the best weekends ever! I love getting blog stuff done on the weekend, it feels so nice.

  • Jenn July 17, 2017 at 7:42 am

    I love this post so much. Slow weekends are great, but you’re right, it can take a little bit of practice to fully be OK with them, and appreciate them for what they are! By the way, now I feel like I need to get a cat so I can dance with it ๐Ÿ˜€

    • tinyambitions July 17, 2017 at 7:44 am

      Thanks! Once you become ok with them, it’s open up so many possibilities! Word of warning: not all cats like to be danced with. I definitely lucked out with mine! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Hey! I'm Britt. I write about living a tiny, simple, intentional life. Because life doesn't need to be lived big.